True stories of dating violence

28 Apr

Even if she had been willing to talk to someone, she didn’t know where to turn. When she finally ended the relationship with her abuser, she called him over to her house and broke up with him. If he wanted to hurt me in any way he could have done it, but he didn’t,” she says. Castillo Jr., the man who would become her husband.Machismo within our Latinx communities is most commonly presented in sets of heavily enforced gender norms and expectations.Often coming from “La mujer […] Youth of all shapes and forms have voices that carry truth and passion. It gets buried in single story stereotypes and societal norms that tells us power comes with age or in the form of a white male.That’s the most powerful thing a victim has, but sometimes they feel they don’t even have that,” she says.“Finding love and finding a career is all possible.

Working on the movie, Hernandez-Castillo realized that she had her own story to share, one that she had never told. She also became a spokesperson for the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and she shares her story at schools, helping students understand the warning signs of teen dating violence.She hopes that learning about her experience will help other survivors break free from their abusers.“All it takes is one choice.If I attempted to make eye contact with a man he would assume I was flirting,” she says.Hernandez-Castillo says that when the abuse began she couldn’t believe it was happening.Each Start Strong site gears its interventions toward middle school students — ages 11 to 14 — in an effort to mentor them prior to entering the dating world.“We are working with families, friends and the community so that everyone is helping to spread the message that violence and abuse in a relationship is never acceptable,” says Cornell, who works with the Start Strong Wichita program.I knew something was not right, but I didn’t want to get him mad.”Jealousy also factored into his abuse.“It got to the point that when we were out walking on the streets I wouldn’t look up.